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Take a moment and reflect on the very first time you kissed your lover. Now fast forward and imagine life without them.

My fiancé–now ex–cheated on me with her ex boyfriend and she got caught!

You think you know a person but when the truth eventually reveals itself, you question have I known this person at all? I was dating my ex-fiancé for nine intimate months and I never saw any red flags. I bet she’s wondering how did she get caught, playing two men at the same time. Truth is, you played yourself.

The first red flag in our relationship was the failure to introduce me to her main family members. I was kept a secret probably to prevent any questioning.

The second red flag was the engagement ring was rarely worn on her hand, while mine was worn day and night. Talk about a slap in the face!

The third red flag was most recently when her ex boyfriend made two appearances in the same week while I was at her home. To put it into perspective, she just recently moved into her own house THIS year. 2022. So there should be no reason any man or ex aside from me should be in her home if they aren’t family.

The fourth red flag was her consistent hesitation. I hope you’re reading this so you know how not to fuck up your next hidden relationship without getting caught. Her hesitation on many questions was a serious indicator that she had to methodically plan what she was going to say without spilling any beans.

Truth be told, I’m not heartbroken, rather enlightened that God opened my eyes to see the impurities occurring around me. In the beginning of our relationship, I told her if she were the one, we wouldn’t have intercourse. We almost immediately did, but she lived such a busy life, I never thought she would be fucking around the way she was.

When we first started talking in May 2021, I told her the hardships I went through in my previous relationship, that I was seeking longevity, honesty, dedication, and most of all trust. I was looking for someone to grow with considering I’m almost 30 and I wanted that special person to live life with and she played me like a fiddle.

I believed her I love you’s and I want this and I love Levi and Trinity because it seemed genuine. It very well could have been, but you don’t tell another man I love you while telling me the same.

So, I bet you’re wondering how I knew?

I called her to talk to her but she was at work. I drove to her job and we talked in my car for 45 minutes. She questioned why we were speaking in the car when I responded, “I don’t plan on staying that long at your house.”

Her hesitant responses, lack of embracing and fighting for our relationship was observed, as well as her lack of input on why her ex kept coming around with no explanation. The only explanation, she was still in touch with him.

While we were talking in her car, her ex rolled up at her job. Keep in mind, it was 9:45PM. There would be no absolute reason for her ex to be in the same vicinity as her. As he rolled up, I imagine her heart beat was a mile a minute. I sped to block him off with her in my car and she jolted, leaving me to confront her ex. She was caught.

Her ex revealed she said the same I love you message ONE MINUTE after sending it to me. He showed me time stamp proof that she was playing us both. Honestly, there was no need for a relationship if all she wanted was pleasure. I would have been fine with that, but now you have my children involved in all of this and that is not okay with me! How stupid and disrespectful and ignorant must you be? I thought I was bad but this took the cake.

Her ex and I went to her home so I could retrieve my engagement ring back and she looked zombified as if she was confused on how she got caught. I thank God for His divine and rapid intervention speaking to my heart to reveal the lies presented before me. I feel so disgusted to know I believed her words, asserting them to be genuine before my eyes and ears. Her lips were filled with the lies of the guilty and stained my soul forever.

Cheaters always get caught, so never try to hide it. Just do the right thing and break up with a person so clarity can be sought and other opportunities can be pursued. I’m not heartbroken one bit. She probably isn’t either, as she is already plotting and preying on another victim to innocently destroy their life. Most men aren’t as kind as I am, because there are some real savages out there that will put a woman in her place for degrading themselves and those they were around.

What hurt the most was her lying through her teeth and her unfaithful ways, calling herself a inter-denominational Christian woman. Boy did I run into that.

I broke it off to my kids that she is out of the picture and they weren’t the slightest sad. I’m a single father and now I know to continue to focus my attention back on my children as I have always done, but hopefully I will be more aware of my choices as a single dad before bringing another woman around my children again.

Lesson learned.