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Do you remember the friends you made in elementary school? How about middle and high? Do you still associate with them? Do you see them decades later recalling your earlier friendships?

That happens quite frequently and without a doubt it amazes me to see where my childhood friends are now. I never worried where they would be if we caught up decades later. To think they remember me or vice versa just means we left a remarkable imprint on the other worth recollecting.

The same friendships that come and go throughout life also applies to relationships. Why do we meet the people we do? Why do they come around for a short amount of time? Is it to help us divide and conquer the journey’s we are set out to face? Maybe so, but when someone you care about leaves, it unequivocally hurts.

I often ponder why humans do the things they do. The actions they commit. The emotions they bear. The feelings they emit. The time of day they offer you. Everyone goes through something and truth is you never know what someone is going through unless you’re audacious enough to ask. I am that person who will approach a stranger having a hard time, intervening, hoping that by me communicating to them could make the slightest difference in their day. Not everyone is like that — and that’s okay.

When it comes to relationships, I often wonder why have I been entangled with the women I have. It couldn’t have been for self-gratification but because I saw worth in them at some point along my journey. Why did I meet the women I did? Was it because of my looks? Was it because of my outgoing personality? Was it because I have a servants heart and lend my time and effort into pleasing someone?

What I have learned about life journey’s are the people we meet are unique and placed in our lives for a purpose. We don’t just meet someone because, we meet them for a reason. God has a justified reason–which seems unjustifiable to us– why people are let in and out of our lives. Maybe they are there to help you move forward from something previously. Maybe they are there to help you during a time of struggle. Maybe they are there to help you learn something about yourself you didn’t see before. God has a plan, and I trust that process of letting people in and out.

Much like a tree has roots, we grow with people along the way of our busy lives. Like a leaf falls off a tree during autumn, or the branches breaking off in a violent wind storm, it severs the linked relationship which once existed, only for that seed of that leaf to fly and reroot elsewhere. When you accept that aspect, it logically makes sense, and I’m okay with that… moving on. Life moves on and so should we.

When a relationship I really wanted to remain ended, I would find myself questioning God’s reasoning for letting people out that I wanted to remain in my life. The one thing I’ve learned is to not blame God for any misfortune. Not for my separation from my kid’s mother, not for the epilepsy disability my daughter has, the list goes on. I know I can’t force anyone in my life that doesn’t want to be and why would I? Why would anyone? Why would anyone chase after a desire that doesn’t desire to be reciprocated? Time is too short for worry, for the meaningless essentially. This next paragraph is scripture which helps me to understand my evil desire is not my own if I do not give it breath.

James 1:14-18 NIV — When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; 14 but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. 15 Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.

16 Don’t be deceived, my dear brothers and sisters. 17 Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. 18 He chose to give us birth through the word of truth, that we might be a kind of firstfruits of all he created.